Systemic Family Constellation Workshops, Individual- and Telephone Constellations, "Walking-in-your-shoes" workshops

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Chris is a certified and experienced second generation facilitator originally from Germany.

 

"Walking-in-your-shoes" modes of group participation:

 

"Workshops" are designed for people who are interested in inner growth and personal development. You may do an "own walk", which means that you are participating actively. Alternatively you may participate as an "observer" to see other participants getting a walk.

"Training" is designed for people who are interested in integrating this new method into their professional work. The training is also great for people who would just like an intensive time for themselves (many walks are included).

 

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What is Systemic Constellation Work?

 

Systemic Constellation Work is a new and effective method developed in my home country, Germany, by Bert Hellinger. The workshops have become very popular in the past ten years, with participants strongly appreciative of their effects . "Systemic" means looking not only at the individual, but also at the family field for several generations back. This is very important, because the family field often strongly determines our acts and our fortunes.

 

What is a family field? If you want to learn a foreign language, you must learn its vocabulary and grammar. However, this alone does not enable you to communicate. To master the language fully, you must access the field of the language. It will be easy to learn if you only get in touch with this field.

 

In a family system you are always in touch with this "knowing field" and we feel its whole. Usually we are unaware of the fact that we are in touch with everybody and everything and everybody and everything is in touch with us. The family system is bigger, greater and older than we are, and we are unconsciously subjected to it. If someone in our family field was cut off in the movement of life, e.g. suffered an early death, somebody else in our field will subconsciously sense this and feel the obligation to compensate, trying to continue the interrupted movement of the first person. Most likely, if the person who was cut off was forgotten or shut out of the family, the person representing him/her resonates with him/her. At this point, however, the person representing the other is not in full resonance with him/herself, mentally or physically. The area of the mental or physical body where the resonance is disturbed hurts. The pain that pushes us reminds us and others of the misbalance. The more it hurts, the more it reminds us of it. If we want the pain to go away with pills etc., we shut out this person a second time and the pain must stay. The pain can only go if this person is re-membered and honored fully.

 

Some examples of issues and resolutions in the workshop:

 

1)   A mother said that her middle son was angry with her and she didn't know what to do. He was getting bad marks at school and was defiant and rebellious at home. The woman had been married once before (without children) and had no respect for her ex-husband. She belittled her marriage and thought of it as a mistake. On setting up her constellation, we saw that her son was in contact with her ex-husband because the latter was shut out and did not have a place in that family system. The son had identified with the ex-husband and had taken on his feelings. His heartfelt expression was: "Nobody sees you, but I do. I‘m going to take care that you aren’t forgotten. My father only could step into that place because you left". The resolution was for the mother to honor her ex-husband as a part of her life that she had chosen to be that way and the son could be free without the need to carry this for his mother.

 

2)   A woman said that she was not loved by her mother, and that it took all her energy to get her attention. Before her mother married, she had been engaged to another man who had died of cancer when they were both 22 years old. Soon after, the mother married and had children, one of which was the group participant. When we set up the constellation, we saw that the mother was still so much in love with with her fiancé, and so drawn to him that she had no attention or energy for her present family. The resolution was for the participant to speak to her mother and tell her: "Now I can see how difficult it was for you. I am going to let you go and stand with dad. That is my good place. But I will always have a big place in my heart for you".

 

3)   A man said that he had difficulty finding a partner,and no woman seemed right. Usually when he did find a partner, the relationship didn’t last long. He had had several girlfriends. His first was at high school, but he left her for a new partner. After we set up the constellation with him and his first girl-friend, it was obvious that their relationship was not over. In their hearts they were still together without being aware of it. By honoring the relationship of 22 years ago, they could finally part with love and face a new relationship. He said to her (i.e. her representative): "Now I see how much I hurt you. I’m sorry for what I did to you. If you ever need me, I’ll be there for you. I’m going to take you into my heart to become a part of my life. And when I’m happy with a new partner, I will think of you and honor you. Thank you."

 

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